Posts tagged ‘Dream’

The Measure of Success

wood meter

wood meter (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today’s post was “The Vintage Office,” however, after reading a post this morning, I decided to write a different post, and reschedule that one.  The post inspired me to ponder/write about the issue of success, and what it means or how it measures. The more I thought about it, it continued to be clear to me that success is not something that can be defined in one way, neither measured.

Our society conditions us to measure success by the expectations of the majority, and we may end up measuring our own success with the same narrow stick – money, material possessions, fans, popularity … . However, success goes beyond labels and expectations, and it should matter more to us at a personal and deeper level.  You should measure your own success by the ruler that you create at a particular moment in your life, and that is why what others think of success, might not necessarily apply to you.

What is success to you? Think about it, and think deep. What makes you happy? What rings your bell? What is your ideal state of success? It may be wealth, it may be glory, it may be writing a novel, maybe, being able to stay alive one more day. Those represent examples of success for somebody. Someone is measuring success by what makes them happy or fulfilled, and that differs between people.

This is why it is important to never apply someone else’s definition of success to your own; otherwise, you will be miserable and may waste your time following someone else’s dream and path, or someone else’s misdirection.

The timing of success varies as well. Today, you might find success in making tons of money; tomorrow, you may find success in giving part of it away – and making other’s dreams possible. In both circumstances, you have been successful, but according to your own measure of success. It may be that you want to write a novel and publish it. You work hard at it, and finally, you publish it – you have been successful in accomplishing that part of your success story. The rest, you keep measuring one inch, one step, one dream at a time, making yourself accountable, by your own efforts and determination.

The frustration and sadness, as well as the insecurity or doubt comes to us when we use someone else’s yard stick to measure our own success, being that, someone’s opinion of what “success or greatness means,” or when we compare our lives or our own success to that of another, not realizing that although we are all related and intertwined in this universe, it is only by achieving the measure of our own success that we make our contribution to the universe, and find happiness/fulfillment.

I have been guilty myself of measuring my success by the rulers of others, at times, as well as by the dreams of others (whether for themselves or their dreams for me); however, it wasn’t until I understood this concept that I was able to let go of all the rulers collected over time (and a long time that was), and start adding inches to my own.

Think of what makes you happy, of what you love, of what makes your bell ring, and your days brighter … measure your success by attaining those.

Much success to you all!

Welcome Your Muse

Hesiod and the Muse

Hesiod and the Muse (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For some reason, the Muse have visited frequently these couple of months.  She has knocked at the door of my mind and dreams.  What happens when your Muse shows up?  Do you ignore her/him or honor her request?  I chose to pay attention.  Let me give you and example of how she made her appearance and what I did at the moment.

Last week, I was at the parking lot of a local WAWA with my husband.  We got coffee and were ready to go on the road.  We were talking and observing the people going in and out, just casual conversation.  My husband said something, and that triggered a rainstorm of images in my mind.  It was a complete story, and I liked it.  I said to my husband, “Wait, let me write something down really quick.”  I took a small notebook and pen that I keep in the car and wrote about all the images as best I could.  He knew what I was doing so he kept quiet until I finished, enjoying his coffee.  In a few minutes, I was done writing, and we proceeded with our conversation.  Once I got home, in the afternoon, I took out my notes and I typed a more detailed version of the images.  The reason for this is that I need as much detail as possible, since that story will be filed until I am able to work on it, since I still have to finish writing book 2 and 3 of The Dinorah Chronicles.  This is an example of how the Muse visited quickly and how I listened to her.  I could have ignored the story, and kept doing what I was doing, hoping that I would remember all the details later, but with me it doesn’t happen that way; I would have forgotten.

That same week, I had a very fast dream. Once awaken, I remembered it, and realized it was the beginning of a story that I liked, a different story, and unrelated to anything that I was working on at the time or other ideas.  Immediately, I wrote it down, as I realized that the Muse had visited once more.  This is how I acknowledge the Muse.  I dream a lot; however, not every dream is necessary something that I would like to write.  Recognizing the Muse’s visit is a way of acknowledging her gift.

As writers, we may get ideas 24/7, and usually these come out of the sudden.  This is why it is important to have a small notepad/pen nearby.  I keep one in my bag, at my bedside, and in the car.  Just for when the Muse shows up.

How do you acknowledge your Muse?

WWYD? – Questions to Alter Your Reality

Most people dream about something in the future, whether they create goal plans or not.  Our nature is to dream; we are dreamers.  We love to achieve, to go forward, to obtain, as we did once, as hunters, gatherers, and inventors.  We keep evolving, and each step (back or forward) will produce change, and therefore, a reaction.  Whether that reaction catapults us into creating our dreams, or not, it is up to us (always) to go in pursue, set sail, walk the journey, and create the path.  No one can do it for us.

Whether your reality now seems closer or far away from your dreams, it is up to you to activate your path – the path that will take you there.  Most of the time, it only takes a change in mindset, and things start falling into place.  One way to start activating the path to your dreams is to ask yourself questions to alter your reality.  If you know what your goals/dreams are, then, you are one step ahead.  If you don’t, then the first question to ask yourself is “What do I love?”

These questions will serve as a tool to help you alter your reality and inspire you to activate the path to your dreams.  What Would You Do?

  • Do I love my present reality?
  • How do I feel about it?  Why? Why? Why? (keep answering the why until you cannot answer it anymore)
  • Is there something missing in this reality?
  • What would make my reality a Complete Now?
  • Would changing my attitude/perception change/improve my reality?
  • What is the dream that is not present now in my reality?
  • Why?
  • What do I have to do to manifest it? (steps)
  • What is the next logical step?  Repeat until you are closer to your dream reality.  When we work towards taking the next logical step, it is likely that we begin to walk the path.
  • What are my perceived obstacles – the ones that I think impede my dream to become my reality?
  • If all the “perceived obstacles” were removed,  what would I do?
  • Considering the answer to the previous question, is there any step that I cannot (truly) take now?  Why?
  • What would I have to do to work on the steps I can do now?

These are questions that I have asked myself at one point.  The answers have shown the path, as well as the crafting of a road map.  I hope that this post is of some inspiration to you.

photo by Maria Antonia Diaz

photo by Maria Antonia Diaz

The Silent Revolution

There is a Revolution going on, and 2013 is an affirmation year.  It is a silent revolution, and I see it happening all around.  I see awakening.  I see people caring more.  I see people going for their dreams, straight out.  I see artists realizing their potential and going for it.  I see writers breaking the shackles that once imprisoned them and embracing their craft.  I see people going back to basics and re-orienting themselves, their families.  I see young people knowing that it is ok to dream and it is ok to pursue those dreams.  I see artists, scientists, mathematicians, physicists, individuals … working in a new direction, efforts concentric and wholesome.  I see young families going back to agriculture, and I see young couples loving the land.  I see responsible self-sufficient communities being born and developing.  I see proud farmers, and I see their young, being proud of the lifestyle and the blessings of the land.  I see people embracing technology as a good thing and not “evil” or “difficult.”    Humanity is awakening, and learning to live without self-imposed chains; loving this planet.  Humanity is embracing new beginnings.

This, I see around me, and it is a Silent Revolution.  Are you in it? – because it is unstoppable!

Thank You!

Today, I noticed that Inkspeare hit 100 follows, and I want to say to all of you who follow this blog or visit from time to time – THANK YOU! I am very happy to have met you through this platform and look forward to continue on this writing journey, sharing and exchanging ideas/posts with all of you.  🙂 You all rock!

This, I wrote for you.

May your journey gifts you wisdom,

may your road be full of roses,

may the breeze caress you gently,

if the climb might leave you breathless.

May you prosper and find sweetness,

and your days be filled with glee,

may Love, Hope, Joy, and Forgiveness,

take you where the road meets dreams.

Much love,

Inkspeare

The Worst and Best Motivator

This shot was taken in a very lonely road goin...

This shot was taken in a very lonely road going outside of Sapa in north Vietnam. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Chances are you won’t make it.” – I consider that phrase the worst and best motivator.

Why?  Because it can motivate you to fight against the odds, inspire you to prove them wrong, and fuel your heart; but on the other hand, it can take all that away from you, demoralize you and send you to the bottom of the barrel.  It is true that many times, it depends on where it comes from – on who said it; however, the attitude you choose is up to you.  Either fight back and hold on to your dream or sink to the bottom.

Ah, but is not that easy.  When you hear that phrase after many trials and failures it becomes heavier, and your beat up vulnerable heart and spirit has weakened to a point where you think that you have no strength to prove them wrong, to fight against the odds or to keep holding on.  It is very different if that was said to you when you started your journey, isn’t it?  All fresh, with tons of energy, exuberant and smelling of soon to be success, drunk on the juices of the big dream cocktail and ready to fight against the odds, prove them wrong, and hold on with your teeth if necessary.  What happened?

The journey happened.  It is all part of the journey, the trials, the failures, the tiredness, the broken heart, the broken dreams, the broken spirit …  Until you understand that all is part of the journey, you won’t be able to keep going.  It is the path that takes you there, but only you can follow it.

When Misery Loves Company

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Image via Wikipedia

We have heard this line many times – “Misery loves company.”  It is a very damaging way to live by.  Why?  When we sulk in our misery and surround ourselves with people who feel the same way, we are becoming victims of whatever situation it is that we sulk about and prolong.  Some people may even live a lifetime this way.  They have become victims and most likely, blame another for their misfortune.

I wholehearted believe that I cannot blame anyone for whatever happens in my life, because ultimately, I make the decisions, whether these are decisions that I make or think I have to make, but is not what I would like to do – in any case, I always decide, like it or not; therefore, there is no assigning blame.  When I fully understood this truth, I became free.  I saw that no matter the circumstances, I chose and that meant accepting responsibility for those decisions – positive and negative.

When we say ” it is ______ (fill the blank) fault, we are closing the door to growth.  Only by understanding that you are responsible for every path taken, and letting go of blame, there can be growth.  For some people, this is difficult to accept and they don’t want to be reminded of it.  If you do, they will find something wrong with you to be able to refute this truth, whether it is your lack of experience in certain area or life situation or something else.  For them, this is ground for invalidation of what you have to say.  Many times, that same “lack” is what helps you be neutral and understand many points of view.  Keep playing the same misery song and you will keep dancing the same misery dance.  If you don’t change the tunes, don’t expect your feet to move at a different rhythm.  That is what I say.

The artist/writer is many times, misunderstood and labeled.  Many artists/writers know that there is a price to pay when they chose to welcome creativity and change in their lives, specially when others don’t understand their art or path.  They may be accused of daydreaming, having unrealistic expectations, not working, being too emotional … and many other things, tons of other things.  If you find yourself wanting your dream very much and on the path to make it real, to survive this you must avoid becoming discouraged by what others may or may not think of you and you must work your dream against the odds.  Most important, don’t invite company to celebrate misery, because misery loves company, and growth will stop.